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Not Going Anywhere Soon?

When You Can’t Go Anywhere – Someplace to Go

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How do you go on when you can’t GO anywhere?

At the point where I’m trying to force something and it’s not happening, and I’m getting frustrated with, say, writing a poem, I can go and pick up the brushes and start painting. At the point where the painting seems to not be going anywhere, I go and pick up the guitar.

— Joni Mitchell

Sometimes I get “stuck” in the midst of a project… and whether it’s because of my confusion at not knowing how to proceed or from a simple deficit of personal energy, suddenly I’m not up for doing anything more.  I seemingly can’t GO anywhere with that particular project… then what? Continue reading » When You Can’t Go Anywhere – Someplace to Go

Speed DIP (instead of speed bump)

Finding a Way Around Life’s Gullies

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We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.

— Lloyd Alexander

Lately, I find that hardest thing for me to do is to know how to keep myself positively focused.  I keep falling into my own private pity party.  I feel alone in a room of people.  I feel alone within my home.  I feel alone in the world.

As we’re living our lives, we all face challenges, some of which seem to repeat.  We’re often challenged by gullies, speed bumps and holes in our sidewalks.  They slow us down.  They hang us up – and until we find a Continue reading » Finding a Way Around Life’s Gullies

The little girl

Stukkk in Resolutions

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Life’s been all work and no play lately, you say?

I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once.

— Jennifer Yane

Geez, three, count ’em THREE posts already from me about New Year’s resolutions – you’d think I was stukkk in resolution mode!  But more than likely I’m stuck in feeling that, no matter how busy I am, no matter how much I do, “it’s just not enough”.  I get to the end of the day and I make a list of what I did because, without it, I’m feeln’ like Continue reading » Stukkk in Resolutions

I said I wanted JUICE!


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Many are stubborn in pursuit of the path they have chosen, few in pursuit of the goal.

— Friedrick Nietzsche

The odds that any of us will be successful in achieving a goal are directly proportional to our commitment to figuring out our path to success.  Often success is the result of us continuing in the face of small successes or no successes until we reach our goal.  It’s not about how “smart” we are.  It’s not about who we know.  It’s about the ability to be flexibly stubborn in pursuit of our dream.

Stubborn.  You probably don’t think of stubbornness as being a positive quality.  Certainly when your two year old is stomping her foot at you in an attempt to get what she wants, it isn’t.  But stubborn is just another word for Continue reading » Stubborn

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Holding On

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Have you ever felt yourself holding on when you thought you should be letting go?

Change is never easy. You fight to hold on. You fight to let go.

The Wonder Years

In my last post I ruminated about “Guarding”.  Today I’m still thinking about that but I’m looking at it from a different perspective.  You see, lately I’ve noticed that I often sit with my arms tightly folded and I’ve excused myself by saying I was cold.  But now I think not.  I think at some semi-conscious level I’m holding myself together, protecting myself from falling apart… If you will, I’m just practicing another form of guarding.

Lagging Behind

I feel like I’m lagging behind my expectations.  PattiAnn would probably tell me I’m being too hard on myself.  And maybe I am.  Still, I feel like I’m stuck on a plateau – languishing, going neither up nor down, wandering about the edges of here and now.  I can’t return to the old “norm” and I haven’t yet carved out handholds for scaling the “new” norm.  I’m in the dreaded “in-between”… (Hmmm, have I just coined a new “stage” in life, sorta like being a “pre-teen”?)

About a month ago I wrote in my journal:

I think I’m exiting this grieving tunnel.  Not sure.  But at least for the moment, feeling whole and thinking about priorities and goals and future.  Looking backward still, but in a different way than before.  Trying hard to do it with affection and joy instead of loss and sadness.  Mostly that’s working.

Now all I have to do is simply… what?  Get on with my life.  Oh.  That’s all.  Yikes.  Continue reading » Holding On