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Growing Up is Never Easy


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Does your world view serve you?

A child becomes an adult when he realizes that he has a right not only to be right but also to be wrong.

— Thomas Szasz

Our whole life, we are working towards the goal of integrating our view of the world with reality.  Some might say (usually therapists) that our pain comes from our attempts to make reality conform to our beliefs:

  • People are kind
  • Institutions work for the good of their members and/or the people they serve
  • There is right and wrong – black and white, no shades of gray
  • Life is fair
  • We get what we deserve

In reality, life is a constant progression towards the ability to live with shades of gray.  As kids, we’re taught to Continue reading » Adulthood

Story Time

Seeing Things Differently

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Madame, all stories, if continued far enough, end in death, and he is no true-story teller who would keep that from you.

— Ernest Hemingway

I love stories.

I’ve been making my way, very slowly, through Michael Yapko’s [amazon-product text=”Hand-Me-Down Blues” type=”text”]0312263325[/amazon-product].  As with most good books on a specific topic, Yapko uses stories to illustrate his points.  The minute he starts telling about a person or a family, I’m hooked.  The thing is that these stories are carefully crafted to Continue reading » Seeing Things Differently


What I Learned Last Week

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The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.

— Attributed to both Jim Goodwin
and Sydney J. Harris

This past week I developed what I call the “acid flu.”  My system seems to naturally create plenty of acid and when my stress level is high, my acid manufacturing machine goes into overdrive.  This leaves me feeling nauseous – not anyone’s favorite feeling – and miserable and achy.  The only good side to it is that I lose my appetite.  Unfortunately, this is probably the one time I need to eat – to rebalance my system.  For a while, I felt Continue reading » What I Learned Last Week


Choose a Daring Adventure

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Helen Keller is an historical figure who never fails to inspire me.  Whenever I’m facing something that I’d rather not face, I remember Helen Keller.  Not only did she survive a terrifying illness as a young child, it left her blind and deaf.  Think about it… she’s a little girl and her life is good.  Then she’s feeling not so good… and then really bad – probably going in and out of those weird dreams we all get when running a really bad fever.  Finally, the fever breaks.  She wakes up and everything is dark and silent.  She must have been absolutely terrified!

Her childhood experience, understandably, left her with an underlying sense of insecurity, which she wrote about: Continue reading » Choose a Daring Adventure

Cool Dude


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Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.

— Buddha

Peace.  It is something that we all seek.  And yet, it means different things to each of us, depending on where we are in life.

When we were kids, peace was booorrring.  It meant that there was nothing to do.  Why would anyone want peace?  Give me excitement!

As we got older, peace came to signify the plaintive query spoken by Rodney King, “Can’t we all get along?”  And it was a movement aimed at ending war – for all time – back when we thought that if we just marched enough, protested enough, etc., we could force “the man” to quit fighting wars.  Perhaps, we were just a bit naïve.

Now, at “our age”, peace represents our ability to Continue reading » Peace