wrapped gifts under tree

Have a Real Merry Christmas

Creative Commons LicensePhoto credit: jimmiehomeschoolmom

Friends are God’s apology for relations.

— Hugh Kingsmill

This is the time of year that is supposed to be about getting together with family and friends.  I don’t know how it is for other families, but in my family, Christmas is like a fairy tale.  Good children get everything they want.  There are no bad children.  There are unlimited funds.  Everyone loves everyone.  And we all live happily ever after – just as soon as we Continue reading » Have a Real Merry Christmas

Flower Still Water

Appreciate What You Have

Creative Commons LicensePhoto credit: DeusXFlorida

Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.

— Voltaire

How do we survive adversity?  What is the difference between surviving and thriving?

I believe the difference is in how we tell our story.  And often, the story we tell is the one we inherited.

My mother grew up in the depression.  She was one of those people who remembered the depression as being an awful time.  There were four of them, my grandfather and grandmother, my aunt and Mom.  To hear her tell the story, life was Continue reading » Appreciate What You Have

Growing Up is Never Easy

Adulthood

Creative Commons LicensePhoto credit: Casey David
Does your world view serve you?

A child becomes an adult when he realizes that he has a right not only to be right but also to be wrong.

— Thomas Szasz

Our whole life, we are working towards the goal of integrating our view of the world with reality.  Some might say (usually therapists) that our pain comes from our attempts to make reality conform to our beliefs:

  • People are kind
  • Institutions work for the good of their members and/or the people they serve
  • There is right and wrong – black and white, no shades of gray
  • Life is fair
  • We get what we deserve

In reality, life is a constant progression towards the ability to live with shades of gray.  As kids, we’re taught to Continue reading » Adulthood

Story Time

Seeing Things Differently

Creative Commons LicensePhoto credit: Sugar Pond

Madame, all stories, if continued far enough, end in death, and he is no true-story teller who would keep that from you.

— Ernest Hemingway

I love stories.

I’ve been making my way, very slowly, through Michael Yapko’s Hand-Me-Down Blues.  As with most good books on a specific topic, Yapko uses stories to illustrate his points.  The minute he starts telling about a person or a family, I’m hooked.  The thing is that these stories are carefully crafted to Continue reading » Seeing Things Differently

stress

What I Learned Last Week

Creative Commons LicensePhoto credit: bottled_void

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.

— Attributed to both Jim Goodwin
and Sydney J. Harris

This past week I developed what I call the “acid flu.”  My system seems to naturally create plenty of acid and when my stress level is high, my acid manufacturing machine goes into overdrive.  This leaves me feeling nauseous – not anyone’s favorite feeling – and miserable and achy.  The only good side to it is that I lose my appetite.  Unfortunately, this is probably the one time I need to eat – to rebalance my system.  For a while, I felt Continue reading » What I Learned Last Week

Cup o’ Inspiration

cup with steam swirl

Take a short break and consider the following:

“The thing about family disasters is that you never have to wait long before the next one puts the previous one into perspective.”

Robert Brault

From the Giftshop

Buy an Appreciate Good Things in Life - wildflowers mug
Buy this Let Your Spirit Soar mug
Appreciate the good things in life mousepad
Awwwwww... what a sweet kitty (mug)
Free Wallpaper

Recommended Reading

Image of The Way of Transition: Embracing Life's Most Difficult Moments
Image of Transitions: Prayers and Declarations for a Changing Life
Image of When Bad Things Happen to Good People
Image of Remarkable Recovery: What Extraordinary Healings Tell Us About Getting Well and Staying Well