Are you stuck in a “costs too much” mindset?
I know, I know – it’s the WRONG season for persimmons which…
…if it be not ripe, it will draw a man’s mouth awry, with much torment, but when it is ripe, it is as delicious as an apricot.
— Captain John Smith
But the Persimmon Paradox isn’t really about persimmons… it’s about freeing yourself from mindsets that are not useful! (Still, if you get a hankering for persimmons because of this post, you might try “Just Persimmons ”. Mind you, I haven’t tried them because there’s only one way I like persimmons and that’s in the cookie form!) But I digress…
The “Costs Too Much” Mindset
Have you ever denied yourself something because it “costs too much?” Or found yourself deciding not to pursue an avenue of effort because it will take too long, be too hard, or take too much energy? If so, then you’ve succumbed to the Persimmon Paradox. Back in 2010 I read a story about a man who LOVED persimmons but almost didn’t buy the first-fruits-of-the-season because a bag of mouthwatering, perfect persimmons Continue reading » The Persimmon Paradox
We hope you enjoy the Oldies but Goodies we’ll be posting between now and 2011. Happy Holidays!
So, did ya love it or hate it?
Earlier this week I inadvertently buried what I think is a not-to-be-missed “gem” at the end of a post. But maybe it’s just me and you won’t get the same charge I got – it looks like fun and it makes me smile… And perhaps I should add a warning “Don’t try this at home!” Or, I don’t know, maybe some of you out there can actually DO the Weeble Wobble Don’t Fall Down?
All right, Ellie – ENOUGH ALREADY with all the maybe-ing! They’ll either like it or they won’t.
So, dear readers, make me (and maybe you) feel good, Click on Weeble Wobble Don’t Fall Down! And then tell me if you like it as much as I do.
Reading the posts from this week has convinced me that we’re all too hard on ourselves. What with:
- the inner critics that whisper us into wobbling,
- the guilt that deceives us into believing we’re not enough,
- the negativism that spirals us into despondency, and
- the tough spots that have us boxed in…
…what’s a body to do???
Continue reading » Good & Plenty We Be
Do you use “guarding” to protect yourself? Is it working for you?
Wherever there is danger, there lurks opportunity; whenever there is opportunity, there lurks danger. The two are inseparable. They go together.
— Earl Nightingale
You know how, after you’ve hurt yourself, pulled a shoulder or neck muscle or something, you start moving differently? You begin carrying the injured limb close to the vest in order to protect it… And then you start using the other arm for everything… You start avoiding certain situations until eventually you go on the alert to “dangers” lurking around every corner? That’s called “guarding” and it sucks up energy, effort and attention. Still there is truth to the Latin Proverb:
Injuries put us on our guard.
Often injured parts need some guarding, some protection from re-injury… But we also need to stay ever-vigilant because, once we raise our guard, it’s easy to over-guard, to incorporate more and more precautions. Eventually, guarding becomes automatic and then transparent to us; we forget we’re guarding, we begin to accept all that guarding as “normal”.
The Great Frozen Wall of Ellie
You fear that if you lower your guard for even one second your whole world will disintegrate into chaos.
— Douglas Coupland
Sometimes, as we accommodate an injury, at an unconscious level we build a defensive wall that protects but Continue reading » Guarding Sucks
What if you’re only telling yourself the negative side of the story?
Every waking moment we talk to ourselves about the things we experience. Our self-talk, the thoughts we communicate to ourselves, in turn controls the way we feel and act.
— John Lembo
When I saw the photo that tops this post I thought: I want to feel like that! Powerful, exuberant, graceful, flexible, free. But I don’t. I’m beginning to realize that there’s something more I need to say to myself… there are some missing messages in my self-talk.
And while I was wishing I felt like the woman in the photo, I also remembered when, not too very long ago, PattiAnn gave me feedback about my post, I Want to Choose Easy – she said Continue reading » What’s NOT Being Said
How do you choose to think about your projects? Will they be difficult or easy?
It’s easy to come up with new ideas; the hard part is letting go of what worked for you two years ago, but will soon be out-of-date.
— Roger Von Oech
In her post, What Are You Thinking?, PattiAnn asked several questions. Among them were these:
- What do you think that these people are thinking that allows them to continue to fight the good fight?
- How do you feel today?
- What are you thinking?
- What is your choice?
Well, her questions resonated with me because I had just watched Wayne Dyer’s special on PBS, No Excuses! and I was still reeling from my reaction to his question:
How would you feel if the project that you’ve been thinking would be difficult was – instead – easy?
I closed my eyes and imagined that a certain pesky project would be easy… and my immediate gut reaction was:
Continue reading » I Want to Choose Easy
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