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How to Get UnStuck

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What do you do if you’re stuck in one place and you want to move on?

…both the person who leaves early and the one who stays late are avoiding endings and the discomfort of facing the fact that there is a break of some sort in the continuity of things.

— William Bridges
Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes

Once upon a time a little kid would climb a couple of feet up a chain link fence so he could watch the “big kids” play next door… but he always wore these big clompy tennis shoes with humungous toes that got stuck in the links… after a while the little guy would get bored and decide to climb down – only to find that his shoes were securely stuck… and then he’d start calling out to his empty yard, “Hep… hep… hep…”  Eventually he’d Continue reading » How to Get UnStuck

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Holding On

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Have you ever felt yourself holding on when you thought you should be letting go?

Change is never easy. You fight to hold on. You fight to let go.

The Wonder Years

In my last post I ruminated about “Guarding”.  Today I’m still thinking about that but I’m looking at it from a different perspective.  You see, lately I’ve noticed that I often sit with my arms tightly folded and I’ve excused myself by saying I was cold.  But now I think not.  I think at some semi-conscious level I’m holding myself together, protecting myself from falling apart… If you will, I’m just practicing another form of guarding.

Lagging Behind

I feel like I’m lagging behind my expectations.  PattiAnn would probably tell me I’m being too hard on myself.  And maybe I am.  Still, I feel like I’m stuck on a plateau – languishing, going neither up nor down, wandering about the edges of here and now.  I can’t return to the old “norm” and I haven’t yet carved out handholds for scaling the “new” norm.  I’m in the dreaded “in-between”… (Hmmm, have I just coined a new “stage” in life, sorta like being a “pre-teen”?)

About a month ago I wrote in my journal:

I think I’m exiting this grieving tunnel.  Not sure.  But at least for the moment, feeling whole and thinking about priorities and goals and future.  Looking backward still, but in a different way than before.  Trying hard to do it with affection and joy instead of loss and sadness.  Mostly that’s working.

Now all I have to do is simply… what?  Get on with my life.  Oh.  That’s all.  Yikes.  Continue reading » Holding On