Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
— Unknown
For the recent holiday weekend I proclaimed myself a four-day-weekend and set about doing a myriad of tasks that used to be either “he or we” projects, never mine alone… I was busy, busy, busy. I was “letting go”.
Letting Go Ain’t for the Faint of Heart
Letting go takes a lot of work and determination. It’s MUCH easier to just let things be. But I knew that moving on, transitioning “from we to me”, required doing “what don’t come easy”… and I, not someone else, needed to do the choosing: keep or let go?
It Was a Close Call
There was a point when I despaired of ever making any decisions, I just couldn’t bear to let go of anything no matter what it was. So how’d I power through? Continue reading » Busy, Busy Days on the Way to Letting Go
Throughout our lives we are confronted with situations that we just need to get through. Things that are out of our control, and that can only be resolved with the passage of time, can make us feel anxious. In my case, it’s my father’s rapidly worsening dementia.
Dealing With Dementia
Dementia is a difficult condition for both the patient and the caregiver. For some period of time, the person with dementia is not really capable of taking care of themselves, but also won’t allow you to take care of them. You are in a position of “damned if you do and damned if you don’t”: concerned about their safety while trying to facilitate their autonomy.
Continue reading » Living with Uncertainty
Continued from Part 3
When every option has its merits but you can only do ONE – how do you choose the “right” path? Perhaps it’s time to try the fourth of five optimistic approaches to unfuddling your brain. To discover what you want to do, force yourself to make iterative choices between desirable futures.
Paired Choice Comparison Tool
About 20 years ago I arrived at an “aha” moment using a tool called “Paired Comparison”. I needed to understand WHY I wasn’t acting on my long-time desire to go into business for myself.
Continue reading » What Next? – Part Four – Force Yourself to Choose…
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When you’re facing a passel of conflicting decisions, this, the third of five optimistic approaches to unfuddling your brain may be your ticket to clarity.
Tap into your mysterious inner self – let your various “voices” decide what to take on an anticipated “journey” into the unknown!
Continued from Part 1
How can we help ourselves bounce back when there are so many options and too many conflicting decisions to be made? Take a 15 minute Blue-Sky-Break and DayDream!
What would you do if you won the big Kahuna of lotteries??? Forget for a moment that the odds are stacked against you. What would you do with the windfall? Who would you want to share your winnings with? What would you do with your days if you didn’t need to earn a paycheck? If money weren’t an issue, how would you decide whatever question is plaguing you?
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