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Paying the Rent

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Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There’s plenty of movement, but you never know if it’s going to be forward, backwards, or sideways.

— H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Back when I was working in Corporate America, we used to “joke”, though I’m not sure how funny we thought it was, that no matter how much we had done, the next question out of our boss’s mouth would be “What have you done for me lately?”

To be fair, we did work in the sales division of the company and as I’ve learned while investing, you’re either green and growing (selling) or brown and rotting (not selling).  And, as much as everyone has reasons that sales aren’t what they should be, not solving the sales problem is a going-out-of-business strategy.

Recently, I read a different version of this axiom.  Rory Vaden in his book, Take the Stairs, calls it The Rent Axiom.  It states that success is never owned, it’s just rented.  In other words – what have you done for me lately?

In the End, We Don’t Own Anything

Vaden goes on to point out that “success” doesn’t just mean success.  What Vaden is saying is that all states are temporary.  You can temporarily be:

  • Fit
  • Depressed
  • Popular
  • Up-to-date
  • Unsuccessful
  • Optimistic

Now, nobody wants to own a lack of success – which is why I put it in there.  The net of it is this, we can change anything we choose to.  We don’t own failure any more than we own success.

For some of us, depression feels like failure.  As a matter of fact, the more that scientists study depression, the more that they realize that for the large number of people who are depressed, intentionally changing thought patterns to be more optimistic results in less depression and more ability to cope.  The challenge is always finding the way into the existing pessimistic thought patterns and altering them little bit by little bit to be more optimistic.  It can be done, it’s just that the initial rent payment is steep.

Habits

The problem is that we are all creatures of habit.  Some of our habits are physical – automatically reaching for food when we are bored or feeling badly.  Other habits are thought habits.  The lucky people habitually think optimistically and the rest of us habitually think pessimistically.

It used to be that every morning I would try and get out of the house early so that I could stop and get my Starbucks.  Now, what I really wanted from Starbucks was a Mocha, the bigger the better.  But, even though I’d stop in every day, I seldom bought the Mocha.  It was too expensive in dollars and calories.  On top of that, Starbucks coffee is really acidic and it would upset my stomach.  I’d have to take something to offset the acid.  Why was I doing that?

Eventually, I figured out that what I was doing made no sense at all.  I wasn’t doing it for the caffeine – I got decaf.  It wasn’t because it was “cool”, I’ve never really cared about cool. (Don’t believe me?  I’m still wearing the same stuff to work that I wore in my last job.  Comfortable and easy to care for are much more my style.)  And worse than anything else, I had to leave home earlier to be able to stop for my fix.  In the end, I couldn’t really figure out why I was doing it and I decided to stop.  It was a habit and I finally chose to change the habit.

In July, I committed to increase the number of steps I walk every day.  My average steps/day in June had been 6,260.  In July, I upped it to 9,150.  That was a HUGE move up.  And what made it work was that I committed to going out every evening after dinner.  I did it as an exercise in staying more alert in the evening.

Walking every evening has changed more than just my number of steps.  Just by walking, I feel more in control.  Weight is coming off, slowly but surely.  I am more alert and more productive in the evening.  It’s been a huge win for me and it was just a little change.

But, if I stop, the benefits will disappear.  If I stop paying the rent, I’ll lose the feeling of control.  I’ll plateau or worse, put on weight.  I’ll go back to being a slug.  When I look at all I’ve gotten from taking a walk every evening, the rent is cheap.

Choosing

Vaden is right.  We all pay a price for our choices.  But life is constantly changing and our choices change to adapt to life’s demands.  This may be the season of raising children or of caring for elderly parents.  When this season passes, we’ll adapt to the new season and make different choices.

That is the beauty and the challenge of living life to the fullest – we get to choose.  Nothing stays the same forever, not success or failure, not fat or thin, not happy or sad.  Ultimately, it’s your choice what you want to do today.  But it’s only for now.  Tomorrow you’ll get another opportunity.

Ain’t life grand?

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