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One Day at a Time

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Practice means to perform over and over again, in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.

— Martha Graham

Why do some of us look at a challenge and declare that we can’t do it while others simply choose to move forward determined to find a way?

Which do you do?

What’s Your Style?

I do both.  I am the person who looks at a challenge and says that I can’t do it.

I am also the person who is determined to move forward.

I quit.

I tell myself:

  • It’s too hard.
  • There’s no point.
  • It’s someone else’s turn.

Then, I pick myself up again and keep going.

I ask myself:

  • How can I keep going?
  • Why do I keep going?

And, the next day I get up and try again.

You notice, I didn’t answer the questions.

I declare that I can’t do it… and then I find a way forward.  That’s my style.

What is your style?  Do you protest the unfairness of it all like I do?  Do you quit – for a while?

I’m not quite sure what quitting does for me except perhaps give me the illusion that I don’t have to face it all anymore.  Then, after a short rest, I pick up what I laid down and carry it a little bit further.

I keep telling myself that this time, I’m quitting for real.  But, even if I leave the problem lying there for longer than usual, I always seem to come back to it.

Something a Little Bit Different

One of my friends never quite looks at things straight on.  It’s just too overwhelming.

She has two boys who struggle with the reality of finding and keeping jobs – who want to be independent but don’t want to have to listen to the boss or co-workers or…  Although they’re both technically adults, they have a long way to go and the journey has been exhausting.  She is close to retiring, but can she?  Does she really want to stay home and referee?

Through it all, she is relatively happy.  Since this has been going on for about 15 years, she either gives in to depression or she decides to be happy despite what others might find overwhelming.  Her life is a classic example of “one day at a time.”

What does all this have to do with happiness?  I think that sometimes the only way we can be happy is if we don’t look directly at what needs to be done.  Or maybe, we just decide that no matter what happens, we’ll choose to be happy.

We call my friend with the two boys the queen of de-Nile.  But, no matter what we call her, she seems to be happy.

Why Does It Matter?

How we resolve our problems matters.  Why?

Well, for some of us, in order to move forward, we have to whine a little.  We need to complain and declare to the world that “IT’S JUST NOT FAIR” before we can get on with the business of coping.

The thing is… We all cope.  One way or another, we find a way to deal with what’s before us – one day at a time.

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