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On the Verge of Losing My Marbles

Posted By Ellie On July 13, 2011 @ 12:01 am In general | Comments Disabled

Are you one of those got-it-together folks who – unlike Tootles – have their marbles all lined up and ready for play?

Peter Pan: How could you know Tootles?

Thud Butt: He was a Lost Boy.

[Thud Butt takes out a small pouch] These are his marbles. These are his happy thoughts.

[Peter empties out the pouch of marbles into his hand and laughs]

Peter Pan: He really did lose his marbles, didn’t he?

— From the movie Hook [1]

I envy people who seem to have everything all organized and lined up… I myself am often on the verge of losing my marbles – they just keep scattering every which way…

Once upon a time, as I was preparing to go on vacation, I wrote in my journal: Why is it so hard to let go of my everyday life and take a few days off? I was feeling torn in many directions because I wanted to get so much done before I left and I needed to pack but wasn’t sure what to take along…which is why I wrote: I feel so helter skelter, so disjointed, so fragmented and, frankly, so confused.

And, today, as I revisited that journal entry, I recall that “going on a trip” is my metaphor for “my life journey” and all these mental mutterings about losing my marbles are simply echoes of my earlier lament: Why is it so hard to let go of the status quo and step into a new future? I feel so helter skelter, so disjointed, so fragmented and, frankly, so confused as I contemplate my future-forward moves…

Time to Knuckle Down

[Knuckle down is] a particular phrase used by lads at a play called taw, [marbles] wherein they frequently say, “Knuckle down to your taw,” or fit your hand exactly in the place where your marble lies.

www.Phrases.org [2]

Now that’s good advice for the game of life too: when I feel like I’m losing my marbles I must knuckle down to my task, fit my mind exactly in the place my difficulty lies and get on with the game!  So simple, so obvious – and thus, probably a bitch to actually do!  But for now I will assume I can and will implement however imperfectly. I will move forward and play my marbles where they lie.

Paul Coelho [3], Brazilian author and blogger writes about his daily practices saying:

Of course, I also live my life in a way that every day will present new challenges and unexpected things. I don’t like to have everything planned beforehand. This is mainly because:

  • It’s pointless: life is impossible to predict.
  • It’s the very salt of life – I don’t want to know what’s going to happen.

Me? I’d like to find a bit of balance between the focused act of “knuckling down” and Coelho’s more laissez-faire approach.  In other words, I want to learn not to get rattled by scattered marbles.  I know, I know – that’s a negative action statement – you can’t “not do something”, so let me rephrase: I want to learn to just reassess the lay of the marbles and forge forward anyway.  This could make for some very productive, very interesting new times as long as I don’t keep losing my marbles along the way! (Yeah, yeah, I knowanother negative action statement.  Bite me…)

Hang on to Your Happy Thoughts!

All is not lost – I’m still in the game and knuckling down on these happy thoughts:

  • Life is a song – sing it.
  • Life is a game – play it.
  • Life is a challenge – meet it.
  • Life is a dream – realize it.
  • Life is a sacrifice – offer it.
  • Life is love – enjoy it.
  • — Sai Baba

What do you do to stay in the game when your marbles are scattering?

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[1] Hook: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102057/quotes

[2] www.Phrases.org: http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/knuckle-down.html

[3] Paul Coelho: http://paulocoelhoblog.com

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